Monday, 28 November 2016

Day 333 - Self Deprivation ?


'  Oh, goodness gracious. Let your self go. Life's too short to deprive yourself of the little luxuries in life. It isn't helping anyone else. Oh, how I long to see a pic of you, with Christmas pudding and brandy sauce dripping down your chin (sigh) Will it happen? Or are you so far down the self denial path that you just can't do it. I need only add, Baileys, mince pies, double cream, Thornton chocolates, creamed sprouts with chestnuts? Just how will you resist? Obviously, only joking, but life really is too short! anyway, Merry Christmas, and heartfelt Blessings to you and your family. '

Yesterday this comment pinged into my Inbox and onto the blog comments, said as 'Obviously only joking ...' but I feel with more than enough seriousness to warrant a reply.  So for those of you who know me well sit back with your coffee and have a recap, while I address the issues raised in this comment for those readers who don't know me so well ... as this reader perhaps doesn't.

I don't need to 'let myself go' - I am a really chilled out person, who has just about enough money to do and buy what I wish if I wanted to.

I don't deprive myself of any 'little luxuries in life' - I think some peoples ideas of luxuries are just different.  Mine are a good solid roof over my head, warmth, health, family, including our furry and feathered friends, good food, lots of books and all the little extras that make life really good ... hot bubble baths at bedtime, a good film on the tele in front of a roaring fire, with copious amounts coffee and homemade nibbles .... what more really is there?

Sorry but I don't eat Christmas pudding or brandy sauce - I just don't like them, so no it  won't ever happen  :-)

I'm not down a path of self denial -   We eat well, luxuriously well.  Home produced free range eggs with the most glorious almost orange yolks.  Home grown fruit and vegetables, picked and frozen at their peak of ripeness and full of goodness.  Home made cakes, biscuits, quiches, pies and soups .... things you will never  be able to buy from a shop.

Baileys, mince pies, double cream, Thornton chocolates, creamed sprouts with chestnuts - yes please BUT out of all these there is nothing that I eat!!  I don't like mince pies ... although I do keep trying, I want to learn to like sprouts and chestnuts but I'm struggling ... and the others all contain milk products which I am unfortunately intolerant to.

' How will you resist? ' you ask.  Easily I answer, we eat better, we eat more, we have exactly what we want and what we need.  We are satisfied and what's more thanks to this year of living within our means and using what we have and what we have produced ourselves, we have paid off our main mortgage completely and done something very exciting that will give us an additional income to help our drive towards self sufficiency.

So thank you for your comment Lesley UK,  it's made for what I hope is an interesting post on a Monday morning when I had no idea what to write other than ...

... Today is a No Spend Day

Todays picture is from Google Images.


25 comments:

  1. Well done! We don't eat rich food like that, either. Not just because I have several intolerances but because we don't like it. My grown up sons and I look forward to sitting down to a roast dinner together and a good walk afterwards. (If it is dry we go to the beach, we live in West Wales, but if not we still walk but in the countryside where it is more sheltered.)Depending on their shift patterns, one, two or three of us will attend church Christmas Eve as we have done since they were children. We exchange gifts but thoughtful, useful items sometimes new, sometimes second hand, sometimes home made. My younger son has made me a card since he was old enough to hold a pencil and continues to do so for Mothering Sunday, birthdays and Christmas. We enjoy spending time together. We will be joined later by partners and extended family but again keeping to simple but tasty food accompanied by chatting, laughing etc. Have a lovely Christmas. Pam

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  2. I am firmly convinced that when Jesus offered his followers "life - and life more abundantly" He was not talking about chocolate truffles or cream liqueurs! The things that make my life luxurious are not on sale in the supermarket. Another great post, thank you x

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  3. Well said Sue, I am with you all the way xx

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  4. I like you Sue cut back on many things, over the Christmas period, one being all the present giving that is a big thing here in the USA. I now only buy for my grown children as couples and its usually something they need. Its leveled the stress level considerably and I would much rather spend time with friends over a nice home cooked dinner as eating out has got way too expensive. Thank you for your blog I cannot start my day without reading it, as it gives me such hope that what I have been trying for years and felt so alone, have now realized there is a whole world of people trying to live the life I have strived to do for so long.

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  5. I totally agree. We live very simply with simple foods and a minimalist lifestyle. I hardly ever really 'need' something. I do need books though, which my librarian daughter brings me. Sometimes I buy from the ASPCA bookstore. They're $1.00 each. so well said. And well done on the mortgage. I wish we were there but we did finally finish our refi so our payment is reduced. That will help in the retirement, if we stay here, which is our plan.

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  6. What a wonderful thing to read!I actually feel a little sorry for people who have to spend money to enrich their lives. Happiness , love and fun are all free if you find the right recipes ,

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  7. Feel the same.

    Joan (Wales)

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  8. Friend and I were only talking last night of when Christmas was literally two days, most of us worked on Christmas Eve (if you were lucky you might finish 'early' at 4 pm), then we had Christmas Day and Boxing Day off. A real treat was if Christmas Day or Boxing Day fell at the weekend and you got the extra days off in lieu. We'd shop for fresh stuff Christmas Eve, had one big box of chocolates, one bag of mixed nuts and some clementines. Whatever we didn't have in the house by dusk on Christmas Eve, well, it was only two days, we'd do without. I blame the onset of 'party foods' that all the stores are pushing from October onwards. Party foods in our house are sandwiches, home made (using shop bought pastry in my case and nothing wrong with that) sausage rolls, cheese and pineapple, crisps and salads. No stocking up on gallons of booze, no stocking up at all. And then all done and dusted by end of Boxing Day. Lovely.

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  9. There's nothing like Christmas to discover what all and sundry really think about your lifestyle!

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  10. Try being a non alcoholic drinking vegetarian at Christmas, people think I am weird, and to top it all, I go to church as well. That's not what Christmas is about, is it? Can't think of anything more vomit making than double cream and baileys.

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    1. Sandra I'll join you. Only I'm nearer vegan than vegetarian so even more fun. I know I'm weird and I'm happy being weird. It's never stopped people talking to me or enjoying my company so what's to worry about?

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  11. Well said and congratulations for paying down your mortgage!

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  12. I saw that comment and thought oh dear!
    Well done at paying off the main mortgage - it must feel great to know that all those times that you've typed 'today is a no spend day' has helped to achieve such an important goal - Well done xxx

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  13. The things that give you & your Lovely Hubby satisfaction are the things that matter - not what "people" think you should have.
    I'm with you on sprouts, I only started eating mince pies when I met DH in 2003 as he makes his Delia-style in filo. Chestnuts I will only eat roasted or candied!
    I love reading your blogs, and hope that you continue to write as you have a very good style.
    Best wishes from Blackpoo

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  14. Great post. Paying off your mortgage was your goal,not blowing it all at Christmas. Living in France puts a new perspective on Christmas. There are not aisles and aisles of things to temp you, Christmas music in every store, endless adverts selling the latest fragrance and the shops are closed for just one day. I used to be guilty of buying way too much but not anymore. I buy just what we need, use our own produce and enjoy quality time with the family. The only thing I'd buy out of that list is the Baileys but I'm happy with an own brand for about 6€.

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  15. Brilliant post today. I think your lifestyle sounds marvellous as it is. I don't like too much rich sweet food either although I do love a few good sprouts! (without chestnuts) and too much butter or cream, as in Bailey's, gives me terrible heartburn. It's just not worth it. Each to their own, I certainly don't ever feel deprived.

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  16. Each to their own. I enjoy lots of bits we wouldn't normally have any other time of year but i wouldn't get into debt buying anything. When I see some shopping trollies at Christmas it must be physically impossible to eat so much food. I buy individual puds because no one else likes them. I love mince pies but make them myself. Being frugal throughout the year means I can spend a little extra at Christmas.

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  17. Hi Sue,
    In all the time I have been reading, it never crossed my mind to think that you were somehow depriving yourself of a great life. From what I see you live a simple but rich life, working hard to achieve your dreams and living a life I would love to lead. Fantastic post today. Loved it, have a wonderful day.
    Fi

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  18. Forgot to say earlier on, even though you don't like sprouts, try Delia Smith's sprout soup recipe, so much nicer than it sounds LOL! http://www.deliaonline.com/recipes/international/european/french/soupe-flamande-with-creme-fraiche-and-frizzled-sprouts
    I defy anyone to even recognise it as sprouts, just takes like really deep vegetable flavour. I cheat and use bags of frozen sprouts to make it. Also leftover soup freezes really well.

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    1. Sprouts are great for making bubble and squeak. My husband only eats sprouts if they are covered in mustard! The dogs adore them.

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  19. I think you said it all when you commented that everyone's ideas of luxuries are different.
    I would hate a day's "pampering" at a spa; it would be more like torture and humiliation to me.
    However you choose to celebrate Christmas I look forward to hearing about it and about
    the new challenge you are setting yourselves for next year. Sue

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    1. Me too about the spa. They wouldn't know where to start!

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  20. Nice post. Gave you an interesting idea to write about. Each to their own is what i think.
    We had chicken curry last christmas day and really enjoyed getting off the 'christmas roundabout'.

    I am a blog reader and lurker. Loving these posts.

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  21. I don't think your life is one of deprivation, rather the reverse. As you say on your blog, the best things in life aren't things.
    You are rich in the things which matter and you know it. You can't do or have better than that!

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  22. A bit late here but just wanted to add - so many people seem to equate being frugal or "careful" with being miserly - they are two different things. And it would be a boring old world if we were all the same! Since my forced retirement I'm learning how luxurious it is just to have time - time to read, time to bake or cook - time to just wander about for a walk when I feel like it - and time to spend with friends. I will have to work at least part-time for a few more years due to debt and boy do I wish now that I'd been more careful and thought more about priorities.

    I've cut back a bit on Christmas these past few years as family don't live nearby and friends have mostly decided that we'd prefer getting together (perhaps for a meal out or just coffee and dessert) rather than spending money on "stuff" that none of us needs.

    I have friends over for Christmas Eve dinner and others will stop bye over the holidays so I do buy a few treats but I found last year that one tin of fancy biscuit and one box of Quality Street with just a few other items was more than enough. We're all getting older and most of us are watching our weight for a variety of reasons so a treat is lovely but no need to stuff ourselves. I will buy a couple of bottles of wine but there's unopened bottles of Baileys and Scotch from last year so no need for any of that. Dinner will be turkey breast rather than a whole bird with lots of veg (including sprouts which I love) and a light dessert - usually berries and cream - and there will be a plate of homemade fruitcake and mincemeat tarts (which I also love) for later with tea or coffee. My one real indulgence at Christmas is some lovely cheeses and biscuits to go with them!

    As others have noted - I've never thought of you as deprived in any way - even this year when you haven't been spending - you are always up to something interesting, you're a reader, you have your movie pass and you and hubby have had a few lovely weekends away - sounds like a pretty nice life to me!

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